Some tragedies, such as natural disasters, terror attacks, or even financial crises, are beyond our control. But we do have control over how we respond to them. Some people rise to the occasion and show what they’re made of, while others… We learn what they’re made of too. The truth is, tragedy brings out the best and the worst in people.
It never ceases to amaze me that some people capitalize on other people’s misfortune. For example, some folks exploit tragedy to attract personal attention or to demonize their enemies before the facts are even known. Other people use tragedy to make money or to pit one group against another to further their personal or political agenda. And if that’s not bad enough, some folks create scams to rob people before they’ve regained their footing. If you believe in karma, as I do, these folks are in deep trouble.
BUT, although there are devious, insensitive, and hateful people among us, there are also many unsung heroes who give of themselves in unimaginable ways. We should learn from them and emulate their behavior.
11 Valuable Lessons Born from Tragedy
Just as a rainbow after a shower, some behavior is a beautiful sight to behold on the heels of a tragedy. Here are 11 lessons that you can learn from exceptional role models:
- Be smart. Problems are best addressed before they arise.
- Be courageous. Run toward the problem rather than away from it.
- Be action-oriented. Complaining isn’t a substitute for action. Nothing happens until you make it happen.
- Be neighborly. Reach out. Be supportive, but don’t be overbearing.
- Be generous. Give without being asked. Give to show that you care. Give out of love, not obligation. Give a little if you can’t give a lot. Give any way you can.
- Be selfless. If you can’t contribute money, give of yourself. If it doesn’t hurt a little, you’re not giving enough.
- Be realistic. Face reality, and find a way to deal with the misfortune rather than withdraw from the situation.
- Be forgiving. If someone is responsible for the tragedy, learn to forgive. Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting, nor does it mean approving. It just means that you’re letting go of the anger.
- Be reflective. Some tragedies may be preventable, so learn from mistakes. Lessons in life will be repeated until they are learned.
- Be grateful. Be mindful of what really matters and appreciate what you already have.
- Be hopeful. Have faith. Hope motivates you to stay the course when difficulties give you every reason to pause. Hope also has a way of saying that even a bad start can still have a happy ending.
Let a Tragedy Bring Out the Best in You
We often hear about the ills of the world, but there’s little said about people who extend their hand to those they don’t even know. Their kindness is overwhelming, and their generosity and cheer are both hopeful and exhilarating. Our gratitude should reflect their kindness and sacrifice.
Many of these folks are not rich and famous; they’re like you and me. They’re willing to lend a hand today, knowing the shoe can be on the other foot tomorrow.
How would you feel if you were in desperate need and someone you didn’t even know came to your aid? You’d be overjoyed by their thoughtfulness, and their gesture would rekindle your faith in mankind. Their action would serve as a constant reminder that even though the world is large, one person can still make a world of difference. Be a role model that makes you proud. If a tragedy happens, let it bring out the best in you.
What Do You Think?
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Additional Reading:
Change Someone’s Life and You May End Up Changing Yours
The Power of One
9 Powerful Reasons Why Your Moral Character Matters
Living Life With a Purpose
Who’s Your Hero?
Can Money Buy Respect?
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Mariah Terres says
I really enjoyed your post. Tragedy is something that everyone will have to face at some point, and being able to give steps of how to deal and what it can teach you is great.
Frank Sonnenberg says
Hi Mariah
I’m glad you like it. It’s better to determine how you’ll respond to a situation before it occurs. That way your response will be logical rather than emotional.
Thanks for taking the time to write.
Best,
Frank
Pharmacycenter says
What is unfortunately lost on those who have drowned in their own prejudices is that people from across the political spectrum – from the brightest of yellows to the deepest of blues – stood in line for hours to give blood. That was a moment of beauty, unity and humanity. That shared sense of compassion, despite all the arbitrary divides and points of friction, is what will give our society hope for a better future.
Frank Sonnenberg says
It’s unfortunate that we spend more time focusing on bad rather than good news. The fact is, there are a lot of good people out there. Although they don’t get the exposure, they’re aware of the life they lead. That has self-respect and good karma written all over it.
Thanks for taking the time to write.
Best,
Frank
Lucy DelSarto says
We all will face storms in life. What I have learned thru my experience is to keep faith in the center and know God is with me (us) and will not forsake us. From that I gather strength. Once out of the storm, there is no doubt I will be able to serve, help and empower others from what I went thru. Thanks Frank…another great post!
Frank Sonnenberg says
You have such a wonderful attitude, Lucy
“Once out of the storm, there is no doubt I will be able to serve, help and empower others from what I went thru.”
I hope everyone takes your words to heart.
Best,
Frank