“I know there’s work to do, but someone else will do it. Who cares if I pitch in; it always gets done anyway. Right?”
The truth is, some folks don’t care about anything. They rarely get involved or pull their own weight. They’re not informed, they have no work ethic, no sense of pride, and they invest just enough effort to squeak by. In fact, they’re apathetic about most things in life. You could say they’re among the living dead.
Some may ask, who cares if I’m apathetic? I’m not hurting anyone. But that’s not really true. They’re depriving themselves of the feeling of satisfaction that comes with caring; they’re cheating themselves of the thrill of accomplishing something difficult; and they’re robbing themselves of knowing that they’ve made a difference.
So who cares if you lead or follow, win or lose, or ever try your best? You should! Even if you have all the talent in the world, you’re never going to amount to anything if you don’t apply yourself. As Jimmy Buffett said, “Is it ignorance or apathy? Hey, I don’t know and I don’t care.”
Apathy: Do You Have a Care in the World?
What’s turning you off? Is your apathy an isolated event or does it permeate many areas of your life? Is someone discouraging you or are you holding yourself back? Are you afraid of leaving your comfort zone? If you’re in a rut, climb out.
Find your passion. “Force” yourself to find an interest. Get involved by making a small commitment. Volunteer. Assume a leadership role. After getting your feet wet and collecting a few small wins, jump in with both feet.
Be informed. If you want to earn the respect of others, it’s important to remain informed. As the saying goes, “Try being informed instead of just opinionated.”
Pay your dues. Manage your expectations. It takes many years to become an overnight success. Find ways to improve yourself every day.
Attitude matters. A positive attitude can make all the difference. See the glass as half full. Believe in your ability to make a difference.
It’s Never Too Late to Care
Even though some folks show up, it’s as though they’re not even there. They’re talented, but they don’t apply themselves. They’ve got good ideas, but never voice them. They’re born leaders, but choose to be followers. And even though they have dreams of grandeur, they choose to live an empty life of dependency.
The truth is, if you want to get anywhere, YOU have to make things happen. The world isn’t going to beat a path to your door. It’s easy to criticize others instead of sticking your neck out; it’s painless to second-guess others from the sidelines instead of getting in the game; it’s easy to blame others for your circumstances instead of accepting responsibility for your choices and actions. The fact is, you have the ability to fulfill your dreams –– if you care.
I’m sure you remember the time you hit the ball out of the park. You made a suggestion and everyone smiled; you voiced your opinion and everyone applauded; you volunteered for the challenge and came out a star. Everyone was impressed. Most importantly, you made yourself proud because you knew you had the answer; you thought your opinion mattered; and you believed that you could make a difference by stepping forward –– and you did! Once you know what it feels like to care, you’ll never be apathetic again. As Helen Keller said, “Science may have found a cure for most evils; but it has found no remedy for the worst of them all –– the apathy of human beings.” The truth is, people who live without caring are people who are not truly living. Who cares? I hope you do.
What Do You Think?
Additional Reading:
Passion: Lost and Found
The Employee Commitment Cube
Rewarding Today’s New Breed of Employee
If You’re Not Proud, You’re Not Done
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AlanB says
Everybody cares about something. You have far too limited a view of human potential here.
Frank Sonnenberg says
Hi Alan
Quite the contrary. I’m sure everyone cares about something, but most people I’ve met have so much more potential. It makes me sad when parents fail to get involved with their kid’s school, people don’t vote, or folks do the bare minimum at work –– apathy.
I’ve always been taught to give it all I’ve got. Maya Angelou said it well, “Love life. Give it all you’ve got. Love it with passion because life truly does give back, many times over, what you put into it.”
Have an awesome day.
Best,
Frank
Cindy says
Hi Frank-
I knew I could look at your latest blog to get my mind chewing on something again- thanks for that (we know what your gifting is!)
I suppose after reading it – I began to reflect on my own life & at the risk of sounding a bit victimized, I must say that some days the world beats you up a little more than others and frankly, there is not much left! I suppose it is through that pain, possibly, that the making of something new begins to unfold within our character … It is here ; however ,that we must put that new addition to the test. I think that it is conceivable in most that they have a greater purpose ; however , the difficult part of conquering apathy is putting legs or action to that new part that we have discovered within. After getting up from the fight you really don’t want to get knocked down again – but, I suppose if you view it as a new addition, you can convince yourself that it will be worth the fight. If only I could hear myself say all this through the battle !( lol)
Thanks again , for great food for thought!
Cindy
Frank Sonnenberg says
Hi Cindy
You’re not alone. It’s really hard to get up after being knocked down. The key is, the more you do it, the easier it gets. The alternative is to stop caring –– apathy. If we stopped trying to walk when we were babies, we’d all still be crawling 🙂
Have an awesome weekend.
Best,
Frank