Inner Peace — Be Cool, Calm, and Collected
Some folks are wealthy, but their relationships are poor. They have a big title at work but aren’t much of a Dad or Mom at home. They’re successful, but everyone knows how they achieved that success. Maybe that’s why they’re not sleeping. Are you cool, calm, and collected?
Inner peace isn’t just the ability to deal with conflict; it’s knowing full well that you’re a person of honor and integrity. It’s knowing that you do the right thing, serve as an exemplary role model, and make a difference in the lives of others. That enables you to hold your head up high and to sleep well at night. Marvin Gaye of Motown fame once said, “If you cannot find peace within yourself, you will never find it anywhere else.” What some folks overlook in their quest for power, fame, and fortune is that following your conscience, and having inner peace, clearly outweighs the material rewards received along the way. After all, you have to live with yourself for the rest of your life.
If you’re yearning for peace of mind, give these 15 guideposts some serious thought:
Accept responsibility. Be the master of your destiny rather than outsourcing your responsibility to others. Stand tall by accepting accountability for your choices and for the consequences of your actions.
Find your purpose. Make a difference. When you do something for satisfaction rather than reward, the reward is often the satisfaction of doing it.
Live with honor. Do what’s right, not out of fear of getting caught, but because your integrity matters.
Be reasonable. Strive for excellence, not perfection. Excellence is more than sufficient.
Develop trusting relationships. Surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you. Gain their trust by proving that you’re worthy of it.
Make everyone a winner. Focus on win-win relationships rather than on winner-take-all. Seek areas of common interest, where everyone can benefit, rather than on optimizing your individual situation.
Be thankful. Learn the meaning of enough. Find your happiness, not by seeking more, but by appreciating what you already have. (That has cool, calm, and collected writer all over it.)
Strive for balance. Enjoy the journey as well as the destination. Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance.
Learn to say “no.” Make your priorities a priority. Know what matters most to you and be unwilling to compromise those priorities at any price.
Live in the moment. Leave the past behind. You can’t do anything to improve your past, but you can learn from it to improve your future.
Unclutter your world. Take a load off your mind. Don’t allow fear, guilt, worry, envy, and anger to weigh you down.
Control what you can. Keep things in perspective. You can’t control the uncontrollable, but you can control how you respond to it.
Be true to yourself. Reach for the stars and be proud of your achievements, but also take pride in the way that you achieve them.
Build good karma. Give of yourself, not because you expect something in return, but because witnessing others’ happiness is, by itself, a worthy reward.
Hold your head up high. Make yourself proud. If you don’t believe in yourself, why should anyone else?
Check out Frank’s new book, The Path to a Meaningful Life
Are You Cool, Calm and Collected?
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Additional Reading:
Inner Peace is a Choice
Living Life With a Purpose
Take Ownership by Taking Responsibility
28 Powerful Tips to Relieve Stress
Karma: Make Your Own Luck
How to Create a Win-Win Relationship
Are You Grateful?
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London Patton says
Great article! It’s. Good reminder that at the end of the day, regardless of wealth and status, we are all human and should strive to be the best person we can be. It is important to have integrity and honor and life a life in that way. I try to to live my life like that daily.
Frank Sonnenberg says
You’re one of a kind, London 🙂
One of the things that I hear often is “I want to live a life of honor and integrity but I don’t know how.” One of my goals is to provide you with specific things that you can do every day to turn that wish into reality.
Thanks for taking the time to write.
Best,
Frank
A'Keia Sanders says
I absolutely loved your 15 guideposts for finding your inner peace! The three that resonated with me the most were, “control what you can control”, “learn to say no”, and “be true to yourself”. These are three things that I have struggled with in my relationship with people, and if I did a better job of policing these things I would ultimately protect my inner peace! This entire blog is amazing, and I thank you for your words of wisdom.
Frank Sonnenberg says
You have a wonderful attitude, A’Keia. The first step in accomplishing anything is the willingness to try 🙂
Thanks for taking the time to write.
Best,
Frank